11-Day Trek In Egypt: Applications Open

Wanna come to Egypt?

YES FOR REAL!

This is THE FIRST OFFICIAL international group trip / collaborative retreat / meditation excursion and we’re looking for the right 10 people to come along.

Here’s the deal: read through the description and if it resonates, apply by writing me a short message to let me know why. It’s important to us to curate an incredible group so after you reach out we’ll set up a group call to see if it’s a good fit 🙂

(FYI: If this trip doesn’t resonate, I’ll be leading more this year with different themes and intentions so stay tuned). 

From this March 27 – April 6, 2018, join me, my friend and co-host Georgina, a private professional guide, a team of Bedouin (nomads) and a herd of camels for an 11-day trip in Egypt for up to 10 people.

Here’s the main filter—(and be honest, this should either energize you or repel you):

Expect nothing.

Okay, of course there will be structure. We’ll meditate in the mornings. We’ll eat together. We’ll have our transportation and logistics figured out ahead of time. We’ll play games and encourage each other to lead activities and get to know the Bedouins and probably develop some inside jokes. We’ll get a solid break from our work and our phones and our daily tedium. We’ll sleep under the stars some nights. We’ll spend most of our time silently trekking through the Dahab desert on camelback. We’ll get attached to the camels and probably each other…

When you see “Expect nothing,” take it less literally and more energetically. It’s the attitude we’re looking for from the group we take. We want a group of people who are wide-eyed and ready and curious. People who are low-maintenance and supportive and non-dramatic. People who are excited about being encouraged to drop their expectations and attachments in order to be right here right now. We want to know we’re spending 11 days with people who feel the same way we feel: in love. Present. Light. Grateful. Open.

In other words, don’t apply if you’re looking for a conventional tourist vacation. This trip is not about being entertained or stimulated. It’s simpler (and perhaps harder) than that: be present and open and loving and empty. Over and over and over and over.

The truth is: we don’t know what to expect either, so how could you? But we know [and love] how it feels. If you feel that too, we want you on our trip. 

Some specifics:

Deadlines:

  • Deadline to confirm with minimum $600 payment: January 22
  • Deadline to pay in full: February 1 (Absolutely no later than February 15)

Dates: March 27 – April 6, 2018 (11 day trip with 7 days in the desert)

Cost: $1,700 excluding airfare

Cost includes:

  • 7-day journey in the Dahab desert (with a professional guide (desertjoy.nl), Bedouin, camels, meals, etc.)
  • Rooms before and after the desert journey
  • Group dinners before and after the desert journey
  • Transportation within Egypt (excluding airfare)

Participants must:

  • Be open and wonderful
  • Purchase your own flights into Sharm el Sheikh, arriving on or before March 27
  • Pay for your own visa ($25 – $35 upon arrival to Sharm el Sheikh airport)
  • Pay for your own travel insurance if desired
  • Confirm by February 1 with minimum $600 payment
  • Pay in full ($1,700) by February 1. (absolutely no later than February 15)
  • Bring sleeping bag + sleeping mat

A Possibility: 

  • We are now most likely ALSO doing this trip in mid October in addition to the March trip. So if that’s your preference, mention that in your message to me.

 

The #100Somethings Challenge Returns

Heads up: THIS SATURDAY (September 23), is the 100th day from the end of the year.

Around this time last year, a few hundred of us committed to doing one thing (in my case it was publishing a blog post) 100 times before the end of the year. We called it the #100Somethings Challenge and it was awesome. Some people did 100 sketches. Some people wrote 100 letters. Some people walked their dog 100 times. Some people got in 10,000 steps 100 times. We did so many somethings.

I didn’t complete my 100 blog posts, but I got more creative momentum than I’ve ever had in my life. That challenge had me activated. As a result I got in touch with Bruce D Schneider and the iPEC community, went through the entire iPEC coach training program, and got my first ebook sponsored.  It’s something I think I’ll continue to do every year starting each September. 

This year I decided to switch it up.

Instead of doing one thing 100 times, this year’s challenge [for those who dare to join me] will be a little more involved: I made a list of 100 different things I’ve committed to doing before the end of the year.

Some things are epic and daunting and exciting (like launching my YouTube channel / Vlog). And some things are easy (like asking for something I don’t think I’ll get). Either way though, everything on this list is something that made me feel good when I thought of it. Everything on this list is a small, deliberate investment in what matters to me. This list is designed to raise my energy and the energy of the people around me. And just like last year, my intention is to finish this year like a champion and bust into 2018 like a fireball. 

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If you’re in, here are the rules:

  1. If you haven’t already, join the #100Somethings Facebook group.
  2. Make your list of 100 Somethings. I chose not to do any repeats, but just feel into what works for you.
    • If you started by Saturday, September 23, you’ll finish on time if you do one thing a day.
    • If you started after Saturday, September 23, you might need to double up a few times to finish on time.
  3. The day you start, post a picture or copy & paste your list in the #100Somethings Facebook group. This is part of our accountability agreement. We’ll all share our lists before and after.
  4. Track your progress! Every 25 days I will do a checkpoint and ask people to post pictures / progress updates on their lists.
  5. At the end of the 100 days (on 1/1/18), EVERYONE posts our lists on the Facebook group, even if we didn’t finish it. This is our accountability agreement. If you start, be prepared to post at the end. Bonus points if you include a little blurb or video about how it went. 
  6. Let the games begin!

Edit: I suspect fewer people will do this year’s challenge than last year’s—so if we get a good solid group of 15 or 20 of us, it’d be fun to experiment with some other ways to stay aligned like webinars, group coaching calls, etc. I’d love to learn what it takes to really see this through for those who are up for it.


Shout out to Teresa Marick for sparking my interest in re-launching the challenge ❤

Finding Your Feminine

This isn’t something I ever thought I’d write. The feminine-masculine discussion irritates me. It’s over-conceptualized and played out. Too many people talk about the ‘hyper masculinity’ of today’s world without bringing the discussion down to earth. It doesn’t make sense to vilify masculinity and—honestly—most feminist rhetoric is distracting and compensatory. The “soul sister” women’s empowerment stuff feels overkill imo and the movement to get men to “stop mansplaining” and whatever else is short-sighted and does more harm than good. To be clear, I say all that with affection. I was a super-educated feminist activist for a couple years and I’ve been involved in all different kinds of intentional women’s groups. Those phases got me to where I am now.

I find myself now feeling the most feminine I’ve ever felt in my life and it’s not what I thought it was. It’s wonderful and solid. It’s the most consistently confident and relaxed I’ve ever been. Knowing this experientially shows me how little I understood feminine energy before and it makes it clear how much we misunderstand the feminine as a society. My intention for this article is to describe what feminine feels like “from the inside” in order to reorient whatever conditioned stories you may have collected and—hopefully—give you access to something that feels like a bit of a hidden gem. This obviously applies to all people, not just women.

As you read this, take a suuuuper deep, suuuuuper slow breath and imagine being really old. You’re reminiscing on how beautiful your life has been. You’re proud of who you’ve been and who you are. The people in your life are fulfilled and grateful and wholehearted. You’re surrounded by love and wisdom and kindness. And you feel this deep conviction that things are right—everything is ok. There’s nothing that needs to be done or fixed or addressed. All you can see is the absolute inherent beauty and perfection in everything and everyone.

Can you feel this? When I do I feel my chest and my stomach relax. My eyes soften and I feel this pervasive, grounded confidence. It’s much different than the confidence I had for most of my life. It’s not loud or active. And it’s not relative to anything else. It’s simple and foundational. It’s generous and present. It comes with a naturally slow, deep breath and what feels like exponentially more bandwidth to share genuine love with others.

In others, feminine energy feels magnetic. You expand in their presence. You’re drawn to them because you can feel their relaxed, low-maintenance love and acceptance and support for you. They don’t need or expect anything from you. They’re present and lighthearted and real.

My favorite men have a ton of this. My favorite humans have a ton of this.

I’m still a tad reluctant to call this “feminine” energy instead of just “grounded” energy or “confidence”—but it honestly feels feminine. Motherly. Grandmotherly. It’s this chill, loving, real, uncomplicated, supportive presence—like nature.

How to tap into your feminine energy

Think of feminine energy like the foundation. It’s permanently there beneath everything—beneath your thoughts and opinions and experiences. It’s the ocean floor, not the waves. What’s cool about this is there’s never a lack of feminine energy. It’s always right there, beneath the surface. So if you feel scattered or mental or stressed or concerned, it’s because you’re surfing up on the waves. That doesn’t make the body of the ocean less present, it just means you’re not paying as much attention to it.

You can’t think your way there. It’s a feeling. Quiet your mind and chill tf out. There’s nothing to figure out or solve or fix. Slow down. Breathe. Feel gratitude and appreciation and love.

Feminine energy isn’t relative. Don’t compare your energy to anyone else’s. Don’t make stories about how masculine so-and-so is. (Just drop the whole masculine-feminine comparison entirely for the rest of your life matter of fact). Drop your thoughts and interpretations and biases. Feminine energy is beneath all that. And if you find yourself caught up in thoughts and comparisons, no worries. That’s the nature of feminine energy: it’s always right there. Available and supportive and loving and nonjudgmental and present.

Practice. Meditate. Look for excuses to soften into your feminine nature. Take advantage of catalysts that bring you up into the waves—use them to relax back into the water.


Photo credit goes to me #selfie

A Message of Gratitude for iPEC

My intention for this post was to give folks some straightforward insight into iPEC’s Coach Training Program now that it’s almost halfway through. But what I’m feeling right now is grateful—like a strong, heartfelt gratitude. So instead of letting y’all in on specifics of the training, I’m going to let y’all in on what has me thankful to be going through it.

Some of my dreams now feel like plans.

I feel on track to some of the visions that in the past just felt like nice ideas.

Before iPEC started I had no inclination toward coaching or working one-on-one with folks—though when I would visualize the future I often had the thought come up that I’d be some sort of advisor or confidant to various high-impact people. As I go through this training and develop these skills—and now that I’ve started to interview potential coaching clients—I can imagine this manifesting pretty easily. This training seems to be a slipstream in the direction of goals that I didn’t realize were goals.

I feel more grounded than I have since I had a full-time job.

When I say “grounded” I’m referring to a sense that the way you’re living works. That you’re taking action, following through, and seeing results. People who are grounded feel that their lifestyle is sustainable and it makes sense and when they describe it to others they understand. And while feeling grounded is not necessarily associated with what I do (it’s a state of being, not a circumstance), I feel most grounded when I’m working on something that inspires me.

A few days ago I realized that I might be on the verge of starting a coaching business. Like really actually doing this. I never saw that coming—I thought iPEC would be more of a spectator sport for me. But now that I’ve sunk my teeth in, I’m energized and focused. I find myself generating ideas about how to move forward and taking action on them. I love the way this feels.

Sidenote—iPEC manages to work in both ways. It grounds the visionaries like me by putting us into the world and getting us activated. But it also enlightens the pragmatists. It reminds the workhorses to lighten up, raise their energy, see from higher perspectives and let go of attachment to results. This training is remarkably inclusive of all different kinds of people and belief systems—it meets you where you’re at and gets you into alignment. That deserves some gratitude imho.

It stays relevant despite my resistance.

Once in a while I find myself resisting this program. I’ve been avoiding the word “coach” and cringing when people ask me about my “life coaching program.” And once during a webinar I caught myself listening for everything I disagreed with instead of looking for the parts that resonated. It’s almost like I’ve been subconsciously looking for an opportunity to disengage.

But iPEC stays a few steps ahead of me. What they’re sharing with us is not black and white—they don’t claim to know “the right way”— so every time I get righteous about something I heard somewhere in the training, I hear someone else contradict it or offer an alternative that does resonate. There’s not much room for my right-making and wrong-making here because iPEC isn’t preaching anything. They’re exposing me to a bunch of options and giving me opportunities to discover what resonates and what doesn’t. They’re throwing me into the arena and offering support when I come asking for it.

Which brings me to my next point: I’m hungry for more.

Tomorrow is the first day of Module II—the second of three in-person weekend trainings—and for the last two weeks in my peer group calls we’ve been talking about how antsy we are to get our hands on the material in Mod II. Now that we’ve all done a little coaching using what we learned in Mod I, we’re more aware of our incompetencies and we’re eager to get some questions answered and learn more.

Almost every time I see or hear one of the trainers demonstrate coaching by working directly with someone in the course I’m impressed. They’re truly professionals. They know exactly what to ask, exactly how to handle situations—even ones that seem like a lost cause. They set clean boundaries. They know which tools to use when, etc. It’s a fluency I’m eager to learn.

Finally, and most importantly: they prioritize the energy.

As an organization (as I work with them, do their training, talk to their team members, and see the material they put out), it’s evident that what iPEC cares about most is raising peoples’ energy and consciousness.

In the coach training program, they’re less determined that we retain the details and rules and tools, and more intent that we integrate (or perhaps a better word is “remember”) what they call the “foundational principles”—things like:

“Truth exists regardless of belief or consensus”

and

“We are each a product of our own belief system.”

During Mod I we dedicated entire conversations to each of these foundational principles, and about 10 others.

More than anything, this is what I admire most about this program. It’s multifaceted and real and practical but it’s founded on deep intuitive truths that raise our energy and align us more closely with ourselves.

I feel lucky to be doing what I’m doing.

Thank you, iPEC.

 


 

photo by Jamie Katuna ❤

Want Me To Coach You? I’ll Take 3 People for Free.

The iPEC Coach Training program is almost a third of the way through and it’s time for me to start putting what I’m learning into action. I’m officially taking clients—three of whom I’ll coach (5 sessions each) for free. 

I’m doing this for three reasons:

  1. I’ve never officially coached before. This is an opportunity for me to get some practice, build my confidence, and gain clarity on what kind of people I want to coach in the future.
  2. It’s likely that I will want to write about what I learn as I start coaching people. I’ll ask for the three people I coach for free to be open to getting written about on my blog. (Don’t worry—I’ll clear everything with you before it goes live.)
  3. I want to dive in. I want to jump off the cliff and “just fucking start.” 😉 It’s the fastest way I know to integrate what I’m learning.

So essentially, by being one of my first clients, you’re helping me out too.

BUT I’m not down to coach just anyone.

I actually want to make a major difference for the people I coach. That means we need to be aligned to a certain extent. So before you apply, understand this: I don’t care about solving your problems. In fact, I don’t believe your problems exist. I’m not interested in helping you make more money or become more productive or improve your relationship. All that stuff resolves itself automatically and effortlessly when you stop fussing with your external life and just do the inner work. I’m not willing to spend much energy convincing people of this. If this doesn’t resonate with you, good to know—it’s likely we’d be a bad fit. Let me know and I can refer you to another coach in my program.

I’m only interested in coaching people who are committed to doing the inner work. I’m interested in coaching people who are done with their own bullshit and determined to get out of their own way. I want to coach people who are ruthlessly honest with themselves; people who care more about realizing their true selves than defending whatever identity they’ve constructed. (I’m also interested in coaching people who aren’t quite there yet but genuinely want to get there.)

In other words—using iPEC’s terminology—I’m less interested in coaching for Self-Mastery (levels 4 and 5) than in coaching for Self-Transcendence (levels 6 and 7).

All that said, right now (before starting) I know less about coaching than I’ll ever know. I have a lot to learn. That’s where you come in.

 

If you’re interested, go to the “Say What’s Up” tab of my website and shoot me a message with your responses to these prompts:

  1. Put yourself into the future looking back after our 5 coaching sessions: What’s different now about the way you experience yourself and your life? Best case scenario. 
  2. How important is this to you? 

If I sense we’re a good fit, we’ll schedule a 30-minute introductory interview where we’ll get a feel for each other and decide whether or not to proceed. During these introductory interviews I will decide which three people I’ll coach (5 sessions over ~2 months) for free. If I don’t select you for the free coaching, there’s a good chance I’ll still coach you for a price. We can decide on those details together.


Photo by Jamie Katuna

Stop Giving Advice (and other takeaways from iPEC’s Mod 1)

Mod 1 is the first of 3 in-person weekend immersions over the course of iPEC’s 9-month coach training program. There were 29 of us in my training and hundreds more going through trainings around the world. Ours was led by two intuitive, bright, funny women named Sherri and Nina. So far I’ve had an exclusively positive experience of this organization so my expectations were high. And still, despite my positive expectations, I was pleasantly surprised. 

Here are three of my favorite unexpected takeaways from Mod 1:

1. I realized that the idea of becoming a coach could actually appeal to me.

I discovered that I never really understood coaching in the first place (if I had, coaching always might have appealed to me). I thought coaches were just self-proclaimed experts who made you pay for their advice instead of giving it freely. And I thought the people who paid for coaches were extravagant and not very resourceful. Why hire a coach when you could ask your friends or google it or just try harder? Why are people paying each other for information instead of sharing it generously? It felt like a backward system. I never thought I’d use a coach and I certainly never thought I’d become one. 

What I misunderstood was this: coaches—at least the coaches that come out of iPEC’s training—aren’t there to help you, solve your problems, or give you advice. That’s what consultants and therapists and mentors do. Coaches raise your energy so you don’t need help or advice anymore. They get you to a state where you’re effortlessly solving your own problems (or not perceiving problems in the first place). I love that. 

2. I noticed my energy rise.

I still don’t know what to attribute this to—but my energy (my attitude; my feeling state; my sense of excitement and clarity and creativity) rose noticeably. I went in feeling pretty neutral and open. Just blank; curious and receptive. By the end of day three I was lit up. Joyful and activated and alive. What the hell? I even found this in my doodle-notes looking back afterward:

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I wrote to Bruce D Schneider—iPEC’s founder—and asked him what it was about the training environment that raised my energy. Here’s what he said:

“It wasn’t the environment that raised you. It was a combination of a lot of things. I designed this to meet everyone exactly where they are and then take them where they want to be. Everyone is affected differently and at different times.”

He said Mods 2 and 3 will make it more clear. Looking forward to learning what that’s all about.

3. Giving advice is not as useful as I thought

This was particularly surprising. Early on in the training we got to see how worthless most advice is. And more importantly, we got a chance to feel how excruciatingly hard it is to NOT give advice—whether or not it’s being asked for.

Giving advice inherently validates and perpetuates whatever story that person is dealing with. Even if you give them a clever way to deal with their problem, you’ve met them on the level of their problem, thereby confirming the legitimacy of their problem and inviting further similar problems into their experience.

The alternative is to raise their energy to a level where that problem feels irrelevant, obsolete, or intuitive and easy to handle. The best tool we learned for raising someone’s energy? Ask them great questions.

Intuitively this is so clear to me—think about when you’re dealing with something tough and you tell a few people about what’s going on. The person who hits you with some immediate trivial “solution” is reliably the least useful conversation you’ll have. It’s the person who gets you thinking differently, reorienting the issue, questioning your approach and considering possibilities who makes a real difference. Isn’t it weird how quick we are to give advice despite how worthless it tends to be?


 

Here’s a quick video I shot about my experience with Mod 1, my stop-giving-advice discovery, and a few other thoughts related to my iPEC journey so far. Thank you Jamie for interviewing me and helping me put it together.

I Gave Up Sex for 2017. Here’s What I Think.

My New Years’ Resolution this year was to be celibate. I realize it’s only three months in, but this has already been the best New Years’ Resolution of my life.

I’ve had a lot of people ask me why I decided to be celibate and I’ve given about a dozen different answers. Here are some:

  • I want to hustle this year and I don’t want to be distracted by men.
  • I’m underwhelmed by the sex I have. It’s good but it’s not truly satisfying in the deeper way I think it could be. 
  • I haven’t been celibate for longer than a couple months since I had sex for the first time. I just wanna see what it’s like.
  • It feels like an interesting social experiment. How will guys respond? I’ll get to know people in a new way.
  • Sex has been too much of a default setting in my relationships. We just do it because that’s what we know to do. And it’s almost always a means to an end. I want more awareness around sex; more intention.
  • I’m a novice in this area. Some of my friends have these remarkably intimate sex lives. They talk about tantra and nonphysical sex and 20 minute orgasms. I don’t know anything about any of that and I’m curious. Maybe this will spark some new learning.
  • I want to get to know myself better. I think limiting external social inputs (like penises and the intentions, priorities, worldviews and beliefs that come with them) will help me better familiarize myself with my own intentions, priorities, worldviews and beliefs.
  • It’s a taboo topic. It seems like nobody’s fully comfortable to talk real about sex. Like people put on some sort of front when it comes to their sex lives. Being celibate might bring it into the conversation in a more real way. 

All those answers are true in a way—but the original truth is that midway through December the thought to be celibate crossed my mind. I dismissed it. Then a few days later it popped up again. After the third or fourth time I just decided to go with it. What’s the worst that could happen? I’ll be a little hornier than usual and I might get rejected by someone who isn’t down to forego sex? Sounds like a nice way to filter out potential assholes, practice some discipline and probably learn something. Game on.

Here is how my life has changed since starting celibacy:

My love life has improved

Weird right? I was ready for the guys in my life to cut me out for this. The opposite has been true. Guys have seemed noticeably more engaged.

The main guy I was sleeping with took it like a champ. He said something like “Cool. I can wait. What made you decide to do that?” Since, we’ve gotten closer than either of us expected. The time we spend together is intentional now—we make plans and try new things and look forward to seeing each other. He said that my celibacy has motivated him to stop sleeping with other women too. I never saw that coming. Now I take him more seriously than I did before. He’s not just a hookup buddy anymore—now we’re learning together and exploring edges neither of us have explored before. It’s exciting. Gives me heart eyes.

Another guy I met at a retreat. We felt a connection instantly, and within about half an hour I told him I was celibate. His response shocked me: “Nice! That’s a relief actually.” We spent the rest of the week together, participating in the retreat, going to eat, laughing, having deep conversations, touring around the island… it was a blast. I felt like myself. Like my full, free, authentic self—something I don’t usually feel with a guy until after months of dating. By the end of the retreat we both said how grateful we were that we hadn’t been hooking up—we wouldn’t have built such a solid connection if we had been. Since the retreat we’ve stayed in close contact despite being on different continents: collaborating on projects, exploring deep interpersonal stuff, this guy has become one of the closest people to me the last few months.

I’ve been on dates with a few other guys too. Their reactions to news of my celibacy ranges from curiosity to excitement. Seriously.

One guy—someone with a background in tantra and a lot of sexual wisdom—told me how intuitive I was to do this right now. He said celibacy would connect me to my own sexual energy without the distraction of others’ expectations and desires and agendas. Connecting more to my own energy would make it easier to develop myself in the ways I wanted to. It was cool to have someone give me kudos for something that probably contradicted his preferences. 

Another guy indicated he wanted me to stop seeing other men and invest more in my relationship with him. That surprised me—a guy wanted to invest in an exclusive relationship knowing I’d be celibate for another 9 months!?

Without exception, celibacy has increased the intimacy and quality of my romantic relationships. Surprising huh? Men have been more supportive and present and vulnerable and transparent. I’m connecting more deeply with them without the distraction of sex—something that apparently was a bigger distraction than I knew.

I’m more confident

The same day I made the decision to be celibate I noticed feeling funnier. More outgoing. Less inhibited.

There’s probably something politically incorrect about this comparison, but do you know how grandmothers don’t give a shit what people think of them? I remember my Grandma Marge being the biggest badass when it came to dealing with other peoples’ dominating personalities. She had this loud, overpowering man that would come over and try to tell her stuff once in a while. I dreaded him. He’d walk up to me—face-to-face—and say things like “Cory, what do you think about global warming?” The worst. But she’d just interrupt him and take her sweet time talking about anything and everything she felt like talking about. The squirrel that comes by her window sometimes, the recipe she’s going to use for her soup tonight. The problem with her water filter. Whatever. And when she got tired of him she’d ask him to leave. It was ruthless. It impressed me—how was she able to do that? His dominance just didn’t register for her. She was the source of her power and didn’t consider otherwise.

Here’s my point: celibacy has given me more of my Grandma Marge’s confidence. I’m not exactly sure what that’s about—but I know I’m not trying to appeal to anyone sexually right now. I’m not trying to seem sexy or cute or girlfriendly. I’m thinking about learning stuff and understanding myself and others and making things happen and living my life. I’m not paying attention to what guys think of me the way I was before I was celibate.

And paradoxically I’ve been getting more attention from guys than I ever have in my life. I’m pretty sure this is related to the increased confidence.

I have more bandwidth

This might seem like an obvious side effect of cutting something out of your life for a year, but I didn’t expect it. I thought I’d be spending more time explaining to people why I’m celibate, defending my decision, beating around the bush, and expending extra energy trying to avoid the topic (and the scenario) entirely. But it’s been a piece of cake. Nobody has pressed me on it.

The extra bandwidth comes from having a clear, explicit container on something that used to be hazy or unclear. I like the example of Obama’s suits. Apparently Obama has like 50 versions of the same suit so he never has to spend any time or energy picking out his outfit each day. He just knows. It’s an area of his life that he has automated entirely so he can spend his mental energy on stuff that matters. 

That’s how this feels. It’s relaxing to not have to think about something that I used to have to think about.

Free bandwidth is strangely appealing. Less distraction means more energy to think and write and read and learn and try things I’m curious about. I’m spending more of my brainpower on areas that excite me and fuel me.

Downsides:

None yet. It’s only March though so I’ll keep you posted 😉


Side note: I’ve was listening to Potential by Quentin Miller on repeat as I wrote this essay. Give it a listen if you wanna catch my vibe 😉


Photo by the lovely and talented Josh Smith