Late last night, as the cab drove off, a kid, like maybe 17 years old with curly brown hair— not the kind of guy you expect to hit on you cold— stopped me and said “yo you’re gorgeous can I get your number?”
I said “Thank you, no.”
He looked me in the eyes and said, “Why?”
And I smiled.
I love moments like this. I love when people get raw and engage with each other for real.
I love opportunities like these to rip back the curtains of pretense. I love invitations to fully enter the moment. He coulda been like “ight bye” but he asked why. And he was genuine. He was vulnerable and curious and open.
Is it because I’m too young?
No. No reason. What’s your name?
I’m Cory. Why’d you ask why?
I wanted to know.
We smiled and looked at each other for a moment.
Yeah you can have my number. And I gave it to him.
We exchanged a few more words (he kept saying the word “facts” which I guess is like a new way to say “word” or “cool” lol so watch out for me trying to make it look natural when I squeeze it into future posts). Then I walked away.
As I walked I noticed how good I felt. I didn’t expect to talk to him much afterward but for that moment, I had given someone an unlikely win. He tried something a little intimidating, stuck his neck out there, asked for what he wanted, risked failure and embarrassment, and succeeded. He got lucky. I fucking love that.
And then I realized that this goes way beyond that moment with Henry. What I did was give away something that I want to receive. I want the world to seemingly miraculously unfold for me. I want to ask for something with openness and curiosity and vulnerability and receive it against all odds. I want luck.
“Everything is energy and that’s all there is to it. Match the frequency of the reality you want and you can’t help but get that reality. It can be no other way. This is not philosophy. This is physics.” — Albert Einstein
I see what I was doing now. By enabling someone else’s dream-come-true, I’m matching the frequency of the reality of dreams-come-true. By gifting someone else with luck, I’m investing in my own luck-filled life.
In that moment, unknowingly, I was “being the change I wish to see in the world” so to speak. Imagine a world where everyone is fundamentally generous and eager to give before we receive. Imagine looking for opportunities to make other people’s desires a reality; to be their lucky day.
“Whatever you think the world is withholding from you, you are withholding from the world.” — Eckhart Tolle
PS. This morning to accompany this post, I drew / sketched that page that I’m using for the featured image of this post. It’s everything I could find in the moment on the benefits of generosity to the GIVER not the receiver. Worth zooming in and reading if I do say so myself ; )